During a scene in my favorite TV show (Buffy the Vampire Slayer), a British character, in a time of crisis, asks for coffee rather than his usual tea.  The friend working with him asks why.  Giles responds:  “Tea is soothing, I wish to be tense.” When I’m stressed at work or at home (but it’s usually at work), I sometimes say this to myself.  It reminds me to stop choosing to be tense, or at least to recognize that’s what I’m doing.  As someone who struggled with anxiety in the past, part of me...